Middle Aged Reckonings
A work inspired by Advice to myself - Learn, or history is doomed to repeat itself.
a few things that I have learned about myself now that I'm inching closer
to the "middle age" group.
1. My children come first. They are my greatest accomplishments, and they are amazing little people. If anyone harms or disparages my children, then "fierce Mama Bear" comes out, and that is a side of me that people DO NOT want to see. My children know that I will fight for them.
2. I'm alright with what I see when I look into the mirror. It's taken me a while to get to this point, but I got here. People may love me or hate me, but I'm alright with either of those things. Self acceptance is definitely key to a happier life.
3. I don't need a man to be happy or successful. I spent my late teenage years and most of my twenties married, and look at how well that turned out. Don't misunderstand me, I love being with a man, but being in a relationship is not the "be all end all" of my life. A man compliments my life, he doesn't complete it.
4. I generally don't discuss politics or religion. I find those to be "hot button" issues that are best avoided in most conversations. So let's prematurely agree to disagree and move on. Don't try to convert/change me and I'll show the same courtesy. Suffice it to say that I do vote and I do pray, but who I vote for and who I pray to is my business.
5. I refuse to entertain stupidity and drama, although sometimes I don't have a choice. When stupidity and drama are shoved down my throat, I deal with it promptly, and if necessary, forcefully. If someone wants to bother me with those two things, I waste no time in telling that person to go find someone who cares about them enough to let their time be wasted.
6. I am very proud of where I'm from. I embrace it because it's one of the things that have shaped who I am.
7. I will always do what's best for my children and myself. It may not always be popular, but it's what's best. When my children turn eighteen and move out of my house, then they can do what they want. Until then, I'm the law in my house.
8. I do not need anyone's approval. My approval is what matters to me. I'm going to live my life, and if someone doesn't like what I do, then that person can go cry in a corner somewhere. I won't take it personally and I'll keep on keeping on.
9. I am living proof that powerful things can come in small packages. I'm all of five feet three inches tall and 110 pounds, but I pack a powerful verbal and physical punch. I will fight, I will defend myself both verbally and physically, and I won't apologize for it.
10. I do not waste my precious time worrying about what others say and think about me. At the end of the day when I go to bed, I'm proud of myself. It doesn't matter how many Twitter followers I have or how many "likes" I get, what matters is my opinions. If people want to hate me, then that's a whole bunch of "them" problems, not "me" problems. If people want to spend their time talking negatively about me, I actually take it as a compliment.
11. I know when to shut up and listen and also when to speak and be heard. I have learned amazing things by just closing my mouth. I have also learned that a person who speaks more than they listen is not a very bright person. I also won't speak just to hear myself talk, either.
12. I am almost always proved right, even though I may not want to be proved right. It may take months or even years, but I am almost always proved right. I have studied human behavior as well as people's personalities, so I generally know what to expect from them. There aren't many tricks that can be pulled on me. I won't say that I haven't been surprised by people, but those instances are few and far between.
13. I am a very patient woman. Having children gave me patience as well as other contributing factors. I usually won't rush things because I believe in quality, not quantity. I also won't wait around for something that won't happen or change. I know when to persevere and hold on, but I also know when it's time to cut my losses and move on.
14. I consider myself to be a very beautiful woman. It took a long time for me to realize that, but I'm at the point where I consider myself beautiful even if others do not. I celebrate my beauty, as well as pleasures of the flesh, and I do not feel bad about doing that.
15. I am generally a very friendly, nice, caring, loving, and supportive person. My children, family, and friends know that they can talk to me about anything, and that my word is my bond. When people tell me things in confidence, I don't break that confidence. I will try to be there for those I love all that I can, and do whatever I can for them. However, there are those who take my kindness for weakness, and when that happens, those people are promptly shown the door. They can waltz on out the door and continue waltzing right out of my life. I love to be with those I love, and to also make new friends, but I won't be taken advantage of.
Alright, so the list is longer than a few things, but still things that I felt like sharing with all of you. Just keep living :)!